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Sleeping Issues

I should also mention that this client has been having sleep issues with her children which are the primary reasons for seeking to use SleepTalk.  She said that after almost 2 months of the foundation process (yes it took that long for her daughter), she overheard her telling her brother “Alfred, since I’m a big girl now and am learning to sleep on my own, would you like me to show you how to do it?”  The mum is chuffed as this was just through the foundation script!

ST Accredited Consultant – Mary Lynch – NSW – 2014


Sleeping & Confidence

With my 7 year old daughter, we had issues with her anger, insecurity and with her coming into our bed in the middle of the night, which was causing tension within the family, as we could not find a productive method that worked and prevented all this. The first night I did SleepTalk with her, she slept all night in her own bed – the first time in years! I was shocked, she herself was surprised and very proud of herself!

I have witnessed a calmness about her, a confidence, a positivity, an independence and security since I have implemented SleepTalk. Over summer I got out of habit and routine of doing it. Then I slowly saw old habits creeping back in – she was getting back into my bed again at night-time, she was getting angry easily, etc … so I started SleepTalk and things resolved themselves.

She is asleep when I do SleepTalk, but she sometime says to me as she goes to bed, “Please mummy, can you stroke my head and say those words to me again when I’m sleeping?” This surprises me, as she is asleep, so not quite sure how she knows? So I say to her, “Do you remember what i say?” … her reply, “No, but it makes me happy”!

My son is 11 years old. He has severe special needs. He can’t talk. He is a very happy, calm child, who cannot verbally give me feedback about life, so I have no real proof if it is working for him or not … BUT when I do SleepTalk – again he is asleep, but every time I say THE script he suddenly smiles whilst asleep … that says it all to me! I feel I am giving him a little bit of security and reinforcement of what he already knows every time I do it!

As a mum, it has had personal benefits, as I love doing it … it has given me a few minutes every night, that feels a beautiful, peaceful, special, magical bonding time with my children – it really feels like pure unconditional love.

I have witnessed some beautiful positive changes in my children, which I believe is from this method, but who knows if this is just coincidence and if it really works or not? I personally really do think it is working for my family and will continue with it, as in my opinion  …  it only takes 2 minutes of your time in an evening and it cannot do any harm, as everything that is said is positive and loving. There is no negativity, nothing intrusive or implying anything apart from making your child know that they are loved, secure and safe. Surely, that is the most important gift any parent can give their child?

My daughter is called ‘T’, she is about to turn 8 years old and my son is called ‘R’, he is 11 years old (he has special needs – a rare chromosome condition called, ‘1q44 deletion denovo syndrome’ – which means he has seizure, gross & fine motor issues, non verbal, still in nappies, sensory integration dysfunction, etc, etc …)

Beryl Comar – Accredited Training – Parent Feedback – DW – Dubai – 2014


Sleeping issues

Hi Ilona, I just wanted to share something that happened earlier this evening. We are all still heavily flu infected except ‘K’ who bought it home initially.

‘P’ (my husband) was trying to die quietly on the lounge when ‘K’ thought she would go in for a cuddle. She was curled up next to him and said totally out of the blue “you know daddy, I used to hate going to bed but now I like it”.

We weren’t sure really what to do with that but just gave her a cuddle and said that’s good honey. Where did that come from? Couldn’t wait four weeks to share:) ‘P’ was totally blown away.

‘R’

2013 Ilonea – Consultant in Training NSW


Sleep Issues / Anxiety

Outwardly ‘V’ is a bubbly, chatty and very active child. However her parents have a tough time getting ‘V’ to bed, feeding is a nightmare and ‘V’ doesn’t accept other people. Her reaction is, “No, go away!”

I taught Dad and Mom the Sleep Talk (ST) process.  After one night of ST, Dad emailed, very excited to report that ‘V’ had her regular hair cut without a single of tear. As ‘V’ doesn’t take well to strangers touching her, even the same hair-dresser who has been cutting her hair all this while, is not accepted. She cries and frets at each and every hair cutting session. This time, to quote Mom: “She just sat there calmly throughout the whole time, no tears, is it a coincidence?”  I replied, “No, it’s Sleep Talk”.

The next positive incident was a follow-up x-ray session to check on the progress of her operation. ‘V’ had a fall and broke her collar-bone. The pain and trauma of strangers in white coats and covered faces makes her scream, cry and cling on to mom and dad for dear life. After about 1 week of ST, ‘V’ allowed the nurse to take her from mom’s arms, sat on the cold steel platform by herself in the dim x-ray room, and had her x-ray taken without a single tear or whimper!

Going to bed was a one to two hour ritual every night; afternoon naps were 20 -30 minutes to the max. Mom had to stay with her at kindi and friends of her parents do not have the privilege to play with or hold her. She would say, “No, go away”. Meal times are an endurance test for mom. ‘V’ will eat a little of an item, then a bite of another and another…. Proper meals with meat, vegetables and rice are rejected.  Mom was totally exhausted, physically and emotionally trying to keep up with ‘V’.

Stayed on with the Foundation Statement for 4 months, completed the 3rd “Where Now” document, and after discussing the ‘Primary area of need’, we agreed to add a support suggestion:  I advised parents to play games with ‘V’ to teach her the meaning of “safe” before using the support suggestion.

With ST, ‘V’ has now transformed into a very confident little angel who does not hesitate to apologize if she’s in the wrong. Going to bed is much easier and parents can walk out of the room after about 20 minutes. ‘V’ is willing to try more healthy new food and is also putting on some weight. She can also interact with people now and as the father puts it: “I do not have to worry about emergency calls at work from Mom or pushing the job  of getting ‘V’ to sleep to one another.  Productivity at work also increased as there is no more stress of having to rush home from the office when an “emergency” arise.

2013 – Elis Soo – Consultant – Malaysia


Sleep Issues

SleepTalk for Children changed my daughter’s life. She went from being an angry child who rarely slept to being the beautiful kind and gentle 13 year old that she is today. I loved the Program so much that I became a SleepTalk Consultant myself! I guess there’s not better recommendation than that!


Sleeping difficulty

Delighted with feedback from 5 year old boy. Sleeping in his own bedroom and not in parents bed for the first time in five years. All without protest or complaint. Telling Mum about “happy dreams” he never spoke of dreaming before. Parents delighted, we have now moved on to more direct statements about eating.

2013 – Josephine P Teague – Consultant in Training UK


Mom totally exhausted

Outwardly ‘V’ is a bubbly, chatty and very active child. However her parents have a tough time getting ‘V’ to bed, feeding is a nightmare and ‘V’ doesn’t accept other people. Her reaction is, “No, go away!”

I taught Dad and Mom the Sleep Talk (ST) process.  After one night of ST, Dad emailed, very excited to report that ‘V’ had her regular hair cut without a single of tear. As ‘V’ doesn’t take well to strangers touching her, even the same hair-dresser who has been cutting her hair all this while, is not accepted. She cries and frets at each and every hair cutting session. This time, to quote Mom: “She just sat there calmly throughout the whole time, no tears, is it a coincidence?”  I replied, “No, it’s Sleep Talk”.

The next positive incident was a follow-up x-ray session to check on the progress of her operation. ‘V’ had a fall and broke her collar-bone. The pain and trauma of strangers in white coats and covered faces makes her scream, cry and cling on to mom and dad for dear life. After about 1 week of ST, ‘V’ allowed the nurse to take her from mom’s arms, sat on the cold steel platform by herself in the dim x-ray room, and had her x-ray taken without a single tear or whimper!

Going to bed was a one to two hour ritual every night; afternoon naps were 20 -30 minutes to the max. Mom had to stay with her at kindi and friends of her parents do not have the privilege to play with or hold her. She would say, “No, go away”. Meal times are an endurance test for mom. ‘V’ will eat a little of an item, then a bite of another and another…. Proper meals with meat, vegetables and rice are rejected.  Mom was totally exhausted, physically and emotionally trying to keep up with ‘V’.

Stayed on with the Foundation Statement for 4 months, completed the 3rd “Where Now” document, and after discussing the ‘Primary area of need’, we agreed to add a support suggestion:  I advised parents to play games with ‘V’ to teach her the meaning of “safe” before using the support suggestion.

With ST, ‘V’ has now transformed into a very confident little angel who does not hesitate to apologize if she’s in the wrong. Going to bed is much easier and parents can walk out of the room after about 20 minutes. ‘V’ is willing to try more healthy new food and is also putting on some weight. She can also interact with people now and as the father puts it: “I do not have to worry about emergency calls at work from Mom or pushing the job  of getting ‘V’ to sleep to one another.  Productivity at work also increased as there is no more stress of having to rush home from the office when an “emergency” arise.

Elis Soo – Consultant – Malaysia 2013

 


Sleeping

Parent Feedback:  “Initially I didn’t think SleepTalk® would have the potential to work on my 3 year old daughter; however after trying the technique that my consultant demonstrated I found my 3 year old to be calmer and more settled with her bedtime routine.  The SleepTalk® process was very easy to follow and manage and we feel at ease with the simple technique Our consultant is helping us with every step of the way and on the whole it has been a worthwhile contribution to my daughters now very healthy sleeping routine”
Consultant:  Jenny Harrison – UK


Sleeping Issues

Melbourne Consultant – Training Course – October 2010.

Feedback from consultant:

Thanks again for the wonderful Saturday where you shared your pearls of wisdom with the group. I’m looking forward to the next two SleepTalk group get-togethers.

I had my first session with a mum a couple of days ago and it went so well! We had a great discussion about her concerns and what she wanted for her 6 year old boy. I followed the suggested procedural format and we covered everything as you showed us. As we went through the ‘Where does my child stand now?’ form, every so often little beams of light seemed to shine into her mind to show greater clarity about what has been happening and maybe why. After going through the Top Hat, the different brain-wave levels, continuous positive statements, the foundation statements and the process she asked if she could also do it with her other two children who are aged 9 and 3. I said a definite yes and that it would be even better that she did do the process with each of them. She went home feeling much happier and empowered.

I rang her last night to see how she went on the first night and she said that everything went really well and she felt so wonderful saying the foundation statements to each of her children. She did mention with amazement that even after just one night her 3 year old girl had the best night’s sleep that she has had for ages and that during the day she was very bright and bubbly. I told her that it just affirms what a powerful process SleepTalk is!!!

Thank you Joane for teaching me this amazing way of helping parents deliver an exquisite gift to their children. We’ve booked the next session in 4 weeks and I’ve arranged to ring her every Sunday evening, if she hasn’t called me during the week.

Specific details are available upon request. Maureen.

 


Speech, eating and sleeping issues

Hi Joane, thank you for the follow up call yesterday.

The kids are going very well and are happy.   ‘O’ is eating and sleeping well and ‘H’s talking is much clearer – has come a long way.

Overall I can see that they are confident and happy little people who given we have just moved house and they have new school/kindergartens, they have settled in without any issues or concerns.  In fact they are very excited each day to be going.

At this stage I feel confident that the kids are going well and that a follow up consultation is not necessary.  I will continue to monitor them and at any stage require additional help beyond your very detailed and helpful book I will give you a call.

Thank you for all your help. 2009

 

Putting babies to sleep

Dearest Kelly and David [*SleepTalk Consultants in Singapore], I am very embarrassed to be writing to you, so long after I completed the SleepTalk® course with you. If you remember, at the time I was pregnant and had a 6 year old boy named Alex and a 4 year old girl named Sophie. I now also have a gorgeous 1 year old baby girl named Olivia.

I really wanted to let you know how fabulous your course in SleepTalk® for Children has been for our family. My older children are so much more confident and resilient (Sophie often says – “it is getting better and better,” with a huge smile on her face!) Alex is feeling far more relaxed and has a more positive “can-do” approach to life.

Perhaps the most obvious and remarkable thing of all is the reaction that baby Olivia has to the SleepTalk® words. When she was only a few months old, I tried to put her down into her cot without cuddling her to sleep, and this change caused her to cry and become quite distressed. After rubbing her back and trying to sing (without much success,) I started to softly repeat the SleepTalk sentences. Even through her now piercing screams, the words and the tone of my voice obviously struck a distinct memory within her – as I had begun the SleepTalk® process when I was three months pregnant with her.

The crying immediately stopped and she swivelled her head towards me and gazed up in wonder. I really have never seen anything like it. I kept repeating the sentences over and over until she calmly got herself off to sleep! Since then I have been using the SleepTalk® method with her and she truly is the most happy, contented and calm little baby.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for all your faith, efforts and commitment to this work – it truly is miraculous. The biggest obstacle I had to overcome in contacting you was sheer embarrassment!!! Anyway, I meant every word I said and please feel free to use my email and our names – the more parents who know about this the better.

Best wishes,
Nancy Fonseca Singapore October 31, 2007


Breaking the Habit of Sleeping in the Parents’ Bed

Dr J and his wife had a 10 ½ year old son, their only child. He had slept with them together since babyhood, then alternated between them, when they later no longer occupied the same bed. When they tried to break him of this habit it always ended up with tantrums, tears and sleepless nights for all, so forcing the issue hadn’t worked for this family. When asked why he didn’t want to sleep by himself, the child he said he got scared – and the parents left it at that.

When the child was approaching secondary school age, they decided to try the Goulding SleepTalk® process.

We began with the foundation process for 21 days with both parents administering the procedure alternately. It was decided that Dr J not ask his son to sleep in his own bed yet. We observed that at the ten day mark the child was happy, however at that time the child showed a preference for sleeping in his mother’s room.

After completing 21 days, the extended script was added for 1 week, after which Joane suggested Dr J tell his child firmly and lovingly that he was old enough, and that it was time for him to sleep in his own bed. Dr J was very reluctant and expressed fear that his son would react by being wakeful and difficult. He spoke to his son who reluctantly agreed to ‘try’ and sleep on his own. At the same time the next phrase was introduced when he changed beds.

It was decided to follow up with an additional suggestion after 2 weeks and to contact Joane to advise outcome.

Dr J phoned Joane 3 weeks later to say that his son’s change to his own bed was accomplished without a problem, with the only complaint being he was a little cold – so a hot water bottle solved the issue. He was proud of his independence.

Dr J was so impressed with the Goulding SleepTalk® process that he has the booklet on show in his reception area.