SleepTalk Consultants

Diet and behavioural issues

We heard about your book from a dear friend who has used the techniques for her daughter, they lost their home in the Traralgon bush fires in 2009, and even though her daughter was only seven months old at the times it affected her a lot, my friend now has a bubbly child that would give you the world if she could.  I am planning to use the techniques in the book alongside the elimination diet in a book called: “Fed up” by Sue Dengate. We are hoping that with a change of diet which removes preservatives and additives, along with your book of techniques we will have a child that is a lot easier to deal with and more aware of how others feel when he acts in his ways. I look forward to working with you and to a happier family without arguments.

2012 SleepTalk Mum.  MF


Psycho-nutrition

I just wanted to tell you that the psycho-nutrition section of the SleepTalk training had a profound effect on me and has resulted in us changing our diets, changing household and personal care items to remove the toxicity and introducing good quality supplementation. As a result the health of the house has just gone through the roof.

Ali Wass – SA – Consultant


Eating / Swimming / Separation Anxiety

Consultant – Case history feedback: “The parents loved the idea of the Goulding SleepTalk® process and couldn’t wait to get started!  After reading through the website and literature I had given her, mum felt that this is such an amazing, yet simple program.  They have two sons, ‘J’ and ‘N’.  Dad has his own business and works Monday to Friday and also goes away for work at times, for 1 -2 week stints.  Mum is an extremely organized person who follows through on commitments, so I am looking forward to seeing how their journey progress’.

1st discussion March 2011
Mum feels ‘J’ is too clingy and would like to see him more confident in himself, not necessarily an extrovert though, just himself.  He loves food and will eat anything but relies on mum feed spooning him still.   He will push mums buttons, for example nagging if she is on the phone to get off.  Mum tries not to growl at him but also doesn’t want him to have ‘no boundaries’ either so instead tries to discuss it with him calmly and in a manner that he understands.  Dad was away for the 1st week that SleepTalk® started but was more than willing and happy to implement the process as well.

After a few days, I received this text message from mum: “I had to let you know, it seems that just in the last few days ‘J’ has been happy to do more things without me being right beside him. Today at the park he rode off on his bike with his mate and played without me for ages!!  Oh I hope it keeps up! Xx”

A couple of weeks after I received the first text message, I received the following, “Loving the SleepTalk….and I’m sticking with it, he is responding well”.  Mum was very happy with the process and is very diligent and I feel that she has done wonderfully in that she has picked up on the subtly within his behavior.

May 2011. Feedback regarding his eating habits was very positive so we developed some ‘specific’ suggestions to deal with his confidence and fear of swimming and Mum loved the support suggestions and was looking forward to seeing how he responded to them.  A week later she sent me through the following feedback: “…..we had swimming at 4pm…..and…..NO TEARS!!!!!  He had a ball.  He was back to the old ‘J’ I know and love and he kicked, and he swam and he jumped in off the side like mad!!!  Thanks heaps …I LOVE THIS SLEEPTALK caper!!”

Conclusion: Mum is rapt with this whole process.  She is more than happy to continue and as other issues arise, implement further statements. I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to work with this family.  Mum is an extremely honest and grounded person and is so impressed with the Goulding process and has no hesitation what so ever recommending it to others, and for her to keep it up for many years to come.  She is very grateful for this “gift” for her son and can see the benefits right in front of her eyes.  The only question she has is: “Why doesn’t every parent do this?”

Consultant – Natalie Oakley – Vic.


Tantrums / Bullying / Sibling Rivalry / Speech / Anxiety / Pooing Issues / Refusing Food

B was almost 3 at the time that her Mum commenced Sleeptalk ® with her. B has a new baby sister, E two months old. Mum says that B is a confident, interested and energetic child. B is a “strong-willed” child, who likes to do “her own thing”. However, B doesn’t always listen to or follow Mum’s directions, or cooperate with Mum, eg holding hands when in the carpark for safety, which concerned Mum. To get Mum’s attention, B often pushes other children at crèche, pokes her sister or pulls on her arm (daily) or will cry. Mum noted a there was a bit of sibling rivalry going on. B will hit her head on the floor or walls at times, throwing tantrums. When things don’t go right or when she wants her own way, Mum says that B overacts.

B speech had been assessed and found to be 6 months behind her age appropriate development (ie limited vocabulary, enunciation concerns, not speaking clearly enough to be understood, etc). As a result she visits a Speech Therapist regularly. B responds well to routine, eg bed-time which has a pre-warning beforehand and a bed-time story which works well Mum says. Although B sleeps through the night, she usually takes sometime to settle initially. B reacts strongly towards specific things and will cry straight away. For instance, at the sight of the vacuum cleaner she will immediately start crying and run to her room or when shown Tigger (the toy tiger) which when wound up will bounce and jump around. B likes and wants order Mum says, eg the doll has to have her hat off. Although previously toilet trained, B had fissures now, so was reluctant to do ‘poos’ (often holding on for some days before going), or go to the toilet to do ‘poos’ due to the pain involved. While Mum has sought medical advice and treatment, she says that B goes and puts on a ‘pull-up’ herself to do ‘poos’ in, rather than going in the toilet.
While Mum said that she would commit to this process, she nevertheless said on parting that “We’ll see if it works”, which l found interesting.

SleepTalk ® Foundation Process commenced.
Spoke with Mum a couple of days after our first meeting and she said that she felt confident giving the SleepTalk ® process. Sent sms after two weeks; all going well Mum reported.

Four weeks into the SleepTalk ® process, spoke with Mum on the phone to arrange our next meeting. Mum said that she had been able to do SleepTalk ® each night, only missing a couple of nights. Mum said that B was more calm and cooperative now, even stopping, looking and listening to Mum at times which didn’t happen before. B had even begun to hold Mum’s hand in the carpark, which Mum was very pleased about.

Second meeting with Mum
A number of substantial improvements in B’s development and behaviour were recognised and noted during this meeting; most with an increase of 10-15%. In reflection and comparison, Mum was able to identify that B had become calmer, more cooperative and focused, and her speech had improved. This was also noted by the Speech Therapist, two weeks earlier (who is interested in finding out more about SleepTalk ®). Mum said that now B was more focused in her play and activities, instead of having ‘excess’ energy as previously, eg not swinging from the curtains as much. B was now more placid, more affectionate, giving more cuddles, especially in the mornings. B was more sharing and caring of her baby sister, saying ‘gentle’ when touching the baby which was welcomed by Mum. Her speech had improved greatly, with B saying new words, more sentences, making more sense in her communication, reciting songs and speaking more clearly. Whereas previously B refused to even try any new foods at all, she was now more willing to even put these foods to her lips and taste them. Increased interest in sharing books with her Mum and letting her Mum read to her and talking with her about books through the day had occurred.

B was playing, sharing and dealing with other kids at crèche better, with less aggression – not snatching toys from them or hitting them as much. B was communication with other children had improved and was verbalizing more. Her concentration on one activity was lasting a lot longer, being more attentive and focused. While her imagination and creativity had become greater, making up games with play dough, wearing objects as ‘crowns’, making up songs.

B’s behaviour at home and in public had become less demonstrative, by compiling with and following Mum’s directions more (eg holding hands in the carpark, packing up toys when asked), with the head banging/throwing tantrums occurring only occasionally. Mum believed as she had put more boundaries in place and B was listening more, she could reason with B and explain consequences to her. Because of this, B was following through more positively rather than reacting negatively by screaming, throwing tantrums, etc. B was not being sent to her room as much for time out. Rather than becoming frustrated quickly with things, B had become calmer with everyday activities, such as tying shoe laces, or when a puzzle piece was missing or didn’t fit.

Mum believed that B’s level of anxiety had reduced (eg trying to eat more things, more willing to do things, calmer, etc); she could even touch the vacuum cleaner now after it was turned off. However she still reacted by yelling “NO” when Tigger appeared. Greater self-help skills by B were recognised by Mum, with B washing her hands after toileting and when appropriate, packing up toys and putting away, cooperating more with less resistance and fighting. While B still wanted to wear pull-ups for ‘poos’, she had started to go to the toilet by herself without being taken by her Mum. Although Dad is not taking part in the nightly SleepTalk ® process, he can see a difference in B’s behaviour Mum said.

Choosing the Primary Area of Need

In determining B’s Primary Area of Need, two priorities were selected by Mum: toileting and speech. Mum is very concerned and anxious, wanting to do all she can to help with B’s speech development, which had improved the Speech Therapist had told her. However, of the two areas, Mum wanted B to be able to go to the toilet to do ‘poos’, without holding on or thinking that it would still be painful. Mum felt that her daughter was becoming constipated regularly because of this which also worried Mum. A specific statement “You can do ‘poos’ in the toilet easily – its OK”, was agreed upon and a follow up appointment made for 6 weeks’ time.


Speech, eating and sleeping issues

Hi Joane, thank you for the follow up call yesterday.

The kids are going very well and are happy.   ‘O’ is eating and sleeping well and ‘H’s talking is much clearer – has come a long way.

Overall I can see that they are confident and happy little people who given we have just moved house and they have new school/kindergartens, they have settled in without any issues or concerns.  In fact they are very excited each day to be going.

At this stage I feel confident that the kids are going well and that a follow up consultation is not necessary.  I will continue to monitor them and at any stage require additional help beyond your very detailed and helpful book I will give you a call.

Thank you for all your help. 2009