Sleeping & Confidence

Sleeping & Confidence

 

With my 7 year old daughter, we had issues with her anger, insecurity and with her coming into our bed in the middle of the night, which was causing tension within the family, as we could not find a productive method that worked and prevented all this.

 

The first night I did The Goulding Process- SleepTalk with her, she slept all night in her own bed – the first time in years! I was shocked, she herself was surprised and very proud of herself!

 

I have witnessed a calmness about her, a confidence, a positivity, an independence and security since I have implemented the foundation statement.

 

Over summer I got out of habit and routine of doing it. Then I slowly saw old habits creeping back in – she was getting back into my bed again at night-time, she was getting angry easily, etc … so I started  The Goulding Process- SleepTalk again and things resolved themselves.

 

She is asleep when I do The SleepTalk® protocol, but she sometime says to me as she goes to bed, “Please mummy, can you stroke my head and say those words to me again when I’m sleeping?”

This surprises me, as she is asleep, so not quite sure how she knows? So I say to her, “Do you remember what i say?” … her reply, “No, but it makes me happy”!

 

My son is 11 years old. He has severe special needs. He can’t talk. He is a very happy, calm child, who cannot verbally give me feedback about life, so I have no real proof if it is working for him or not … BUT when I do The Goulding Process- SleepTalk – again he is asleep, but every time I say THE script he suddenly smiles whilst asleep … that says it all to me!

 

I feel I am giving him a little bit of security and reinforcement of what he already knows every time I do it!

 

As a mum, it has had personal benefits, as I love doing it … it has given me a few minutes every night, that feels a beautiful, peaceful, special, magical bonding time with my children – it really feels like pure unconditional love.

 

 

I have witnessed some beautiful positive changes in my children, which I believe is from this method, but who knows if this is just coincidence and if it really works or not?

 

I personally really do think it is working for my family and will continue with it, as in my opinion  …  it only takes 2 minutes of your time in an evening and it cannot do any harm, as everything that is said is positive and loving.

 

There is no negativity, nothing intrusive or implying anything apart from making your child know that they are loved, secure and safe. Surely, that is the most important gift any parent can give their child?

 

My daughter is called ‘T’, she is about to turn 8 years old and my son is called ‘R’, he is 11 years old (he has special needs – a rare chromosome condition called, ‘1q44 deletion denovo syndrome’ – which means he has seizure, gross & fine motor issues, non verbal, still in nappies, sensory integration dysfunction, etc, etc …)

 

Beryl Comar – Accredited Training – Parent Feedback – DW – Dubai – 2014

 

Confidence. 

 

From a mother’s perspective, I found the Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ process a beautiful one. It gives me the opportunity to reflect daily on what matters most; unconditional love. 

 

Over the months, I found myself much more accepting of ‘H’s imperfections. In the past I was very anxious about his lack of desire to help others or lack of interest in social activities. Today, I see him positively challenging himself to experience and adapt to new situations.

 

I now feel secure watching him move forward into the next chapter of his life. This experience has certainly made me more confident in sharing the Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ process with others. Thank you Joane for bringing light into so many families! 

 

Parents Feedback: Hasnah Bte A. Rahman – Accredited Consultant and Trainer. Singapore 2017  

 

Confidence.

 

Feedback received from the parent:  “Mother says that she is happy with the changes that have happened so far in ‘L’.  Both parents are committed to continue the Goulding Process, and use the foundation statement for a further month when we will check in again. 

 

In a months’ time I will be looking for further changes in ‘L’ acceptance of others and improvements to her sibling sense of security in the family. This case study is not yet concluded, the family may still need the specific suggestions and we will consider adding them at the next consultation. 

 

The family is feeling closer and calmer as a whole. The process has been particularly beneficial for Mum who was feeling quite helpless at our first consultation.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kim High – Australia 2019 

 

Developing Confidence and Calmness.

 

“We are delighted with the calmness and self-assurance ‘A’ has, she spontaneously chats about her dreams and goals and is very “natural” in her communication and less guarded  about what people think of her.

 

It is wonderful to see this young lady blossom and follow her passion without being timid and concerned of what others may think.”

 

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

 

Confidence – Nutrition.

 

“Mum sates that: ‘L’ is starting to show “phenomenal change – really excel”. She made the honour roll at school which “she has never done in her life”.

 

She ran for an office on student council and was determined to start working out with a personal trainer to enhance her volleyball success.  

 

She stared a nutrition plan, losing 5 lbs. Mum notes that there have actually been “remarkable changes with both girls”. 

 

L’s change has been dramatic, she is very driven to take extra steps to make varsity team.  Grades in school are now all A’s and B’s. 

 

She made the National Honour Society, where she has never made honour roll in the past.  Mum states she made comments that she was “stupid”; now she makes comments that she knows that she is smart.   

 

Her  “confidence is out the roof!”  She drives her own sleep schedule and makes her own decisions. ‘L’ broke up with a boy that she didn’t feel was truly interested in her prior to homecoming and went with her friends instead.  

 

Mum felt this was a remarkable stand in confidence, whereas prior she would have tended to ‘go along’.”

 

Accredited Consultant – Joy Hoffman – USA 2019

 

Confidence.

After doing the Foundation script of Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  for more than 6 weeks, mother has noticed that ‘WX’ has improved in term of her attitude.

 

She is the middle child, so she tends to complained that mother doesn’t love her and always behave mischievous to get attention (Either bad or good attention).

 

After 6 weeks of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® , mother noticed that she becomes more obedient; no more do any mischievous behaviour to seek attention. Not only this, she also tends to more loving to her siblings and her anxiety level reduced to a manageable level. 

 

After doing a more Phase 2 of the process, tailored made suggestion script, the improvement on ‘WX’ is more significant. She starts to voice out her opinion in school and more confident in herself. Now she has courage to take part in competition and she has more confident in handling exam. 

 

She used to have performance anxiety symptoms when facing exam, but after the Goulding SleepTalk®, her anxiety level towards exam was significantly reduced. She learned that she can wish to get the best result but it is not a must to get best result in order to be successful person. 

 

She learned to tolerate stress and her stress tolerance level has improved significantly. Mother does for both of them in a same room. She chooses to read it silently just right beside their ear, and she found this is more powerful than just read it out loud for all the kids who share the same room.

 

Accredited Consultant – Hiro Koo Kian Yong – Malaysia 2018

 

 Confidence.

 

Parents have shared that ‘N’ has settled much more at kindergarten now and has enjoyed a number of different trips and activities out-of-house recently too. 

 

She has started swimming and is really enjoying the lessons, and her dance class has also restarted and ‘N’ seems happy to meet all the new children. Both parents feel The Goulding Process – SleepTalk has been an amazing tool which has empowered them to turn their lives around, and they intend to continue indefinitely!”

 

Accredited Consultant – Georgina Broendal – Denmark 2018

 

 Changes in Behaviour.

 

“The parent has managed to overcome her biggest barrier, which is the physical contact with other people. In order to see a better result from The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, timing and consistency is very important.

 

By doing The Goulding Process -SleepTalk® it doesn’t mean that it can solve all problems but you can see the improvement of certain behaviour. (eg: Sibling rivalry). The child has become more open to new people and new environment.  

 

Focus span has improved positive affirmations in the day time and bite size sandwich is vital to see impact. I realized that along the way of doing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® you discover more about your child.”  

 

Accredited Consultant Jen Li Soo – Singapore 2018

Improving Concentration and Confidence

Improving Confidence & Concentration

Consultant report: Parents used the Goulding Process SleepTalk™ process for her 6 year old daughter to improve her concentration and confidence. I worked with both parents, however, mum was the main parent doing the SleepTalk™.

I found the concept of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk interesting and so when Paola was asking for volunteers I jumped at the chance.  My daughter finds it hard to concentrate at school and can be quite anxious and so I wanted to see if The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® could help in combination with other things.

After a few months it seems that my daughter has responded well to the SleepTalk® process. She is reading more confidently and has been moved up a group in her class and her swimming has improved a great deal and she is now enjoying it.

We continue to do the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® now.  Paola has been brilliant along the way, helping with a few teething issues initially as my daughter kept waking up when I starting talking, but we sorted it out and all went well after that.  I would certainly recommend The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®.

ST Accredited Consultant – Paola Bagnell – 2014 UK

 

Confidence, Emotional Resilience & Speech. 

Parent feedback: “The Mother was overall satisfied with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, seeing many improvements in her daughter over the past 3 months. Most significant was her daughter able to express her love to the Mother verbally.

‘Z’ will also spontaneously hug her Mother and this makes the Mother extremely happy and has improved in her physical ability.  The Mother said ‘Z’ is basically a gentle girl and her level of confidence has definitely improved. 

‘Z’ has also improved in her level of concentration as reported by the teachers and ‘Z’ has demonstrated more confidence when striking a conversation with adults and peers.  She is more cooperative and flexible now even if it is not the usual routine for some days and her ability to deal with issues is much better.

The Mother commented that she was glad that Z has the ability to express ‘No’ to situations that she doesn’t want to be part of  (as opposed to previously compliant character).  

The parents have noted about her changes in dealing with her stress systems and sensory overload.  She managed to remain calm when another autistic child suddenly hit her unexpectedly.

‘Z’ was also able to verbalise her thoughts to her parents that she had enough and would like to go back home instead of having a meltdown. Overall, the process was carried out consistently every night except for missing a few nights when ‘Z’ was staying at grandparent’s house.

 

Conclusion: My learning from this case experience is that The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® only takes a few minutes nightly to help the special needs child develop emotional resilience to cope with the outside world.   It amazed me to see an autistic child to have the confidence to say “No” and with good understanding of why she wants to say that.”

Accredited Consultant: Tan May Chin: – Singapore 2016 

 

Confidence & Speech.

Conclusion: “The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® process was successfully applied in this case. Not only did ‘A’s emotions became more stable, she was generally in a better mood and happier than before. Mum & Dad learned a few more things about ‘A’ that she did not reveal before. Mum’s relationship also improved as a result. As an added bonus, ‘A’s stuttering had disappeared as a result of her increased self-confidence and lessened anxiety.”

Accredited Consultant: MFA – Singapore 2014

 

Confidence & Behaviour.

Paent Feedback: “The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® gave a new start to our family. I started with my 6 year old son who had a lot of excitement to evacuate and a big lack of self-confidence and behavior problems at school. Since then, everything is much better. The sleeptalk was advised to me by our pediatrician. I recommend this therapy 100% !!!! ”

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Maha Lahode – Genève 2018

 

Confidence & Sensitivity.

“For some time, my son had great fears, a lack of self-confidence and an uncontrollable sensitivity (often at the end of the day).  We did not know what to do … see a psychologist? like everyone…  Thanks to the good advice of my pediatrician, I made contact with Maha. 

We set up the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®. The result: EXTRAORDINARY !! after 5 weeks we saw changes, it is inexplicable and incredible.  A big thank you to Maha for her great professionalism.”

 Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Maha Lahode – Genève 2017

 

Confidence – Speech.
According to Mom’s feedback, the 6 years old girl doesn’t have to have her planed otitis media (ear) operation. The parents hoped they can avoid that as from the beginning of applying the process, the girl’s condition was constantly improving and now she is free of inflation and any other symptoms.  Her speech is also clearer and she is more confident and relaxed.

My conclusion: Spending quality time together is crucially important for the healthy physical, mental and emotional development of our children.  If the parents are able to provide it with full commitment, then the child will be able to experience all the joy life can offer with its full extend.

Accredited Consultant: Molnárné Kecskés Mónika Hungary – 2019

 

Confidence. 

“Consultants feedback: ‘J’ has exhibited some excellent improvements and some outstanding breakthroughs not just at school, but in his home environment as well. I do believe a lot of it was related to his lack of confidence and lack of belief in self and now it seems he has come forward in leaps and bounds. The subsequent reclassification showed a definite improvement.

I also explained to his mother that she had done an excellent job with a lot of her positive input and that if she continues on with the SleepTalk® process with her son until puberty and possibly beyond, that he can only continue to improve and be a very happy self-assured confident loving boy/young man at the end of this absolutely wonderful The Goulding Process –  SleepTalk® .

Thank you so much for bringing such a beautiful gift and tool into the world dear Joane. You have truly been blessed with a very precious and amazing talent. It truly does create miracles in the lives of children and their parents. 

Accredited Consultant: 2010 Marina Fick  – Victoria 2010

 

Confidence.

“In conclusion, I am not certain, and from the facts given, how consistent Mum and her husband have been with the Goulding Process SleepTalk®  with ‘R’ and therefore believe if there had been more regularity and consistency in applying this method that ‘success’ would have been much easier and possibly sooner because there were definitely some great breakthroughs throughout the process. I stressed the importance of continuity in following through with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  daily and success would be inevitable. 

As far as I know Mum will be continuing on with the 2nd Primary Area of Need and working on ‘R’ self-confidence, but have not been advised as to when she will begin that. Finally, I have understood from Mum’s feedback that generally ‘R’ is a much happier, calmer and loveable boy, confidence in some areas and working on the other one’s mentioned above.

Accredited Consultant: 2010 Marina Fick  – Victoria 2010

 

Confidence.

“She did find the process to be difficult to perform if they had a late night but were usually fairly consistent with it. Mum has been saying the words to ‘G’ during the day as well and ‘it makes her smile’. We decided to add a Support Statement to reinforce her new self-confidence and feelings of calm and ‘in control’. 

On 15 August I spoke to mum again. She was very happy with progress and will continue with support statement indefinitely. I contacted her again in September for update, and all is going well with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk . ‘G’ has accepted the support statements with no problems and mum is hoppy to continue as is. She will keep me posted with developments and I will contact her in due course for on update.”

Kathryn Duncan – Qld 2014

 

Confidence.

Mother has seen improvement in ‘S’s interactions in school, managing more self-care on his own and reaching out to peers for help when needed. 

Accredited Consultant: Karyen Chai – Singapore 2018

 

Confidence.

“I have been working with client #1, a mama and a little girl, 8 years old that is the only child in the family. The mother has been very consistent and reliable doing the foundation statements, even when they were camping and on summer vacation.  All is going well and she has had excellent results.

With this self-confidence she soared and truly began to see herself and her daughter through the eyes of unconditional love. A very beautiful experience! This has had a profound effect on the family relationship and spoke of being much happier in a day-to-day way.

And even though the father/husband has not actively participated. The mother/wife has informed him of what she was attempting then doing and invited him to participate when he was ready. The interesting thing is there has been positive change for him too. In general, he has been more understanding and helpful. And I feel this is his true nature revealing itself passively.”

Phyllis Fisher USA

Improvement at school and in sport

Consultant report: Parents used the Goulding Procress – SleepTalk™  for both their children, their son aged 9 and their daughter aged 6, to improve their confidence. I worked with ‘E’ on her own. However, she taught her husband the process and they took turns in doing the nightly routine. ‘E’ sent me this case history

My 9 year old son has loved his kickboxing class ever since he was 3. His natural perfectionist tendencies meant that he progressed so quickly, advanced so far through his grades, and did so well in competitions that he was moved up to a class for older children.

He then suddenly lost his confidence in sparring with children who were bigger, stronger and had longer reach. He started getting upset, crying, panicking and freaking out when fights did not go his way and he was clearly losing his love of the sport.

I approached Paola for help and we began using SleepTalk™ in August this year specifically working on his confidence in sparring. After 4 weeks the changes were evident: He was more confident in his training, the panicking and freaking out stopped and he cried a lot less.

There were other noticeable changes in his general level of confidence: He was less afraid of spiders and crane flies (which had previously disturbed him) and at a museum trip he stunned us all by volunteering to hold a tarantula in front of 250 people.

His creativity and confidence in his studies improved and he soared to the top of his class where he has remained. He became more assertive and courageous in other areas: willingly going into shops on his own and launching himself off a huge zip-wire without hesitation.

Within 8 weeks of starting the Goulding Process-  SleepTalk™ his sparring had significantly improved. Two incidents around this time highlighted the change: After being punched whilst sparring with a 20 year old he started to cry but quickly responded when his coach to ‘stop crying and get angry’ and went on to win the next three rounds.

His coach commented that he had never seen him fight with such speed and commitment and asked “What have your parents been doing – giving you ox blood for breakfast?” In early December he was awarded a special badge with the words ‘Sparring Champion’ on it for being the ‘most improved’ in sparring. He is now asking us to enter him in national competitions.

I should mention that in line with Paola’s recommendations we simultaneously used The Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ for our 6 year old daughter whose teacher had told us that she needed more confidence in speaking and performing in front of other people.

With Paola’s help we tailored our suggestions to this need and again the changes were noticeable. She has since started piano lessons (something she previously resisted) and loves them, joined a performing dance group and volunteered for a speaking part in the Nativity play where she coped brilliantly when, at the last minute, she was given additional lines to cover for another child.

I have no doubt that The Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ has produced amazing results for both of my children in a few short months. They have both gained in confidence and ability and are clearly getting more out life.

The Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ has also improved our relationship with the children and each other. The two minutes of love that we give them every night offsets the usual stresses and careless remarks of the day and re-aligns us all to our true feelings for each other. It is a beautiful practice and one that I will continue as long as it remains beneficial.

Parent Feedback – ST Consultant: Paola Bagnell – 2014 UK

Improving Confidence

Diabetes

I woke up to a lovely message from one of my Mums today, she has a 7 year old daughter who is diabetic and has a fear of needles. She has been using The Goulding Process-  SleepTalk® for 4 1/2 months.

It was a struggle at first because there was a huge abreaction from ‘A’. Confidence was a real problem and herself belief was really low. We implemented our first support sentence about 3 weeks ago and Mum tells me she has started administering her own insulin this weekend which is HUGE for the family.

The fact she is in control herself now and not Mum is really going to help her confidence grow and grow in other areas of her life.

Claire Bossons UK consultant (Professional Intern)

Feedback – Behaviour & Confidence

I have been lucky enough to meet Joane Goulding and learn the correct techniques of SleepTalk® for  my two boys, aged 5 and 2. Not only has SleepTalk® improved their behaviour, the whole dynamics of our family has improved. We have an overall calmer and happier attitude and show love and respect to each other. I am no longer so worried about how my boys will cope with the challenges that come their way as their father and I use SleepTalk®, as well as positive affirmation throughout the day, to build their confidence and self-esteem.

Of course, we all worry about our children and there will always be issues for them which are out of our control, however, I am thankful to SleepTalk® for giving me the skills to control the things I can. I admit that I was initially daunted by the idea of doing SleepTalk® every night, yet it soon became part of my routine and takes mere minutes. I now actually enjoy this time I have to witness their peacefulness in sleep, especially when we have had a hectic day. I hope that all parents and careers get an opportunity to learn and use SleepTalk® Thank you Joane.

2012 – YVPP Parent Meeting at Yarra Glen – Cameron House

Confidence

Improved Confidence

I was spurred on today to send this email as I had a client who uses the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® with her children each night and says since doing so his confidence has improved and they have a more peaceful household – isn’t that wonderful!

Lee Simmons – Victoria 2013

 

Self-Esteem Rising

“Very positive feedback again, the mother is very content – all marks of ‘B’ are in the positive range now. ‘B’ continues sports and is generally much more calm and with very good marks. ‘D’ shows further improvements too, though remains disinterested in sports and other activities, and her ability to remain calm changes up and down over time, despite of a visible general increase in self-esteem.  

The mother has dropped significantly in doing the talks every night, but intends to get back to it upon the results of this review.

Both kids have grown greatly in self-esteem, and their general feeling at home and school has improved significantly as well. The mother has grown enormously in self-esteem and the change is very visible. The relation of the 2 kids has improved visibly too, less frustration at home for the mother. ‘D’ still needs some attention but looking at the marks she is well on the way. 

We introduced additional suggestions but it does not show an effect on the targeted traits, but may attribute to the general improvement. The mother became interested in applying the process in her work because she occasionally helps children.”

Consultant: Peter Solymos – Budapest 2014.

 

No Operation Needed, Confidence & Speech Improving

According to Mom’s feedback, the 6 years old girl doesn’t have to have her planed otitis media (ear) operation. The parents hoped they can avoid that as from the beginning of applying the process, the girl’s condition was constantly improving and now she is free of inflation and any other symptoms.  Her speech is also clearer and she is more confident and relaxed.

My conclusion: Spending quality time together is crucially important for the healthy physical, mental and emotional development of our children.  If the parents are able to provide it with full commitment, then the child will be able to experience all the joy life can offer with its full extend.

Accredited Consultant: Molnárné Kecskés Mónika Hungary – 2019

 

Trying New Thing, Reading and Writing Improving & Speaking Clearer 

“After 12 weeks of The Goulding Process SleepTalk  The Foundation Stage was strictly followed everyday by the mother! 

• Mum noticed results after two weeks of the process and the first observation was the increase in the confidence level where he became more approachable to try new things or new learning challenges believing in his own abilities. ! 

• Soon his reading and writing improved dramatically along his grades and he was awarded from school for the amount of reading he is doing.! 

• His ability to express himself improved slightly but he was able to make better sense using his mother tongue language! 

• His attitude toward school improved and is more focused on the positive aspects of the teachers rather than their flaws as with his very high logic and reasoning cognitive skills. sometimes he was making more sense than his teachers! 

• The mother was so happy by his ability to remain calm and manage his anger very reasonably. She said that this has improved so much that the relationship with his brother and sister is getting so much better!

Feedback Report:  There is no more hair pulling at all which has stopped completely. Nail biting is still on but at a very less frequency! 

‘Y’ took some time to understand the shift in his mother behaviour after focusing so much on high grades and results. Signs of anxiety is still there but he is able to go through tests and is more motivated to put more! 

All kids love the process and they call their mother before they sleep and ask her to sleep talk to them!

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

 

Attitude Improving

After doing the Foundation phase  of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®  for more than 6 weeks, mother has noticed that ‘WX’ has improved in term of her attitude. She is the middle child, so she tends to complained that mother doesn’t love her and always behave mischievous to get attention (Either bad or good attention). 

After 6 weeks of  the  process, mother noticed that she becomes more obedient; no more do any mischievous behaviour to seek attention. Not only this, she also tends to more loving to her siblings and her anxiety level reduced to a manageable level. After doing a more specify The Goulding Process SleepTalk® phase 3 ,  tailored made suggestion script, the improvement on ‘WX’ is more significant. 

She starts to voice out her opinion in school and more confident in herself. Now she has courage to take part in competition and she has more confident in handling exam. 

She used to have performance anxiety symptoms when facing exam, but after all three phases of the process, her anxiety level towards exam was significantly reduced. She learned that she can wish to get the best result but it is not a must to get best result in order to be successful person.

 She learned to tolerate stress and her stress tolerance level has improved significantly. Mother does for both of them in a same room. She chooses to read it silently just right beside their ear, and she found this is more powerful than just read it out loud for all the kids who share the same room.

Accredited Consultant – Hiro Koo Kian Yong – Malaysia 2018

 

Phenomenal change 

“Mum sates that: ‘L’ is starting to show “phenomenal change – really excel”. She made the honour roll at school which “she has never done in her life”.  She ran for an office on student council and was determined to start working out with a personal trainer to enhance her volleyball success.  She stared a nutrition plan, losing 5 lbs. Mum notes that there have actually been “remarkable changes with both girls”. 

L’s change has been dramatic, she is very driven to take extra steps to make varsity team.  Grades in school are now all A’s and B’s. She made the National Honour Society, where she has never made honour roll in the past.  Mum states she made comments that she was “stupid”; now she makes comments that she knows that she is smart.   Her  “confidence is out the roof!”  

She drives her own sleep schedule and makes her own decisions. ‘L’ broke up with a boy that she didn’t feel was truly interested in her prior to homecoming and went with her friends instead.  Mum felt this was a remarkable stand in confidence, whereas prior she would have tended to ‘go along’.”

Accredited Consultant – Joy Hoffman – USA 2019

 

Making new friends

Parents have shared that ‘N’ has settled much more at kindergarten now and has enjoyed a number of different trips and activities out-of-house recently too. 

She has started swimming and is really enjoying the lessons, and her dance class has also restarted and ‘N’ seems happy to meet all the new children. 

Both parents feel The Goulding Process – SleepTalk has been an amazing tool which has empowered them to turn their lives around, and they intend to continue indefinitely!”

Accredited Consultant – Georgina Broendal – Denmark 2018

 

Improving Growth and Development.       

Conclusion: The parents invited me over to dinner; they were delighted with ‘E’s growth and development. They reflected that girls are growing really fast and needed a different approach to parenting.  

The parents realized that being critical does not work for ‘E’.   We have also started The Goulding Process – SleepTalk™  with her sibling recently.  My learning from this is that I am even more convinced that when parents are involved and positive about the process, the rate of improvement increases in amazing ways! 

‘E’ is so lucky to have such dedicated parents!  I am really excited about sharing The Goulding Process – SleepTalk™ with more families!  

Hasnah Bte A. Rahman – Accredited Consultant and Trainer. Singapore 2017  

A parent’s gratitude

Parent feedback – Comment: I just want to pass on my intense gratitude to Joane for the beautiful gift that is The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®.

I’m not one to reach out or write reviews on books or products but feel compelled this time to let Joane know that she has truly changed my life and the lives of both my 6 year old warrior (burkitt’s lymphoma survivor) and his younger brother.

As you know the wounds you can’t see can be the most difficult to heal so a year after the blessing of Hudson’s physical battle coming to an end, I felt myself and my parenting abilities crumbling. My family was in distress.

Conventional therapy felt wrong and more damaging than helpful. Mainstream parenting techniques left me more confused and angry because the gift of my son’s battle has to be the ability to truly appreciate these little angels for what they are.

I feel so strongly that every parent should know about this method and pray for the foundation’s blessing. You are empowering parents and healing relationships/ wounds and I can’t think of more important work at this time on the planet.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart,

USA – Amanda Paige – SleepTalk® Parent

Behaviour, eating issues, tantrums and confidence

Katie talks about how The Goulding SleepTalk process helped her son sleep better, enjoy his food more and feel calmer and happier within himself. Katie describes the stress that she felt prior to learning this method and how she has been able to help her son develop a confidence that is helping him to thrive in his life.

Self-confidence and assurance

Self Confidence

A is a 5 year old boy who lives with his Mum and Dad and his little sister aged 2.

Both parents were in a loving relationship and both keen to do the Goulding Process- SleepTalk technique together with both their children.

The initial reasons for A’s Mum wanting to use the Goulding Process – SleepTalk Phase 1   to help him establish more self-confidence and assurance. Mum also noted that A was a premature baby and she said that she had experienced a few challenges along the way with A’s health due to this early birth.

17th August 2011

I met with both parents in August 2011. At this time A was described as a very intelligent, imaginative boy who knew just how to get his Mum’s attention through what was described as a “whiney voice”.

Mum commented how A could attempt to be very controlling when she was talking with other adults and didn’t want to “share his mum”. He would scream and go into melt downs and this was often worse when A didn’t know people that well and felt uncomfortable in new surroundings. This was described to me as “clingy behaviour”.

Both Mum and Dad were very loving parents who often spent much time with both children in the day time but there was obviously some underlying belief that A had that was leading to him to feel uncomfortable in new situations and only secure when with parents.

At the time A was resistant in learning things himself, not keen to try new classes, and commented that he was most happy when “at home with Mummy and Daddy”.

The other thing that Mum and Dad wanted help with was to get to the core reason for A’s fussy eating as he would often seek attention at meal times and both parents felt that there was a lot of fuss around eating.

I left both parents with the SleepTalk folder and they were confident with the process and how to apply it at bedtime.

13th October 2011

I met with A’s parents for the second time after they had been saying the Foundation Stage SleepTalk words to A for approx 8 weeks time.

Mum said that A seemed more level now with his confidence and emotions. He was “snapping out of his whiney voice” much quicker and “able to control his emotions a lot better”.

A seemed to be calmer and less anxious and “more comfortable in his own skin”, parents said. It was noted that A was more confident without parents and not as “needy” in new situations.

Dad said that he was delighted when he took A to a friend’s party on his own as Mum was away that weekend and A just ran off and played. Dad said that he was convinced that when they got there A would be clingy and yet when he turned round he had run off to play!

You could see how pleased Dad was with this change in a matter of 7 weeks!

The one thing that still stood out was that A was still coming in to his parent’s bed at approx 12 am and lying right next to them indicating a need to be near his parents still. This was after he had wet his pull ups. So he would wee in his pull ups and then go to parent’s bed and get in with them.

So together we looked for a suitable support statement to add to the Foundation words.

21 st November 2011

I met with A’s parents again approx 5 weeks later.

A had dry pull ups at bedtime within a week! Within one week A was getting up to go to the toilet himself and going back to his own bed where before he was going to his parents bed and getting in with them.

A was then going to his parents bed at approx 5 am and Dad said that he was more “calm and cuddly when getting in the bed rather than in a needy way”.

Both parents said that they didn’t feel that this was an issue now with A coming in at that time as it was nearly time to awaken for the day so we didn’t address this any further and agreed that he would most probably grow out of this and when he got his new bed.

Mum said that A was now eating a better quantity of food and not fighting as much at meal times which could also have been due to the fact A was now taking quality Vitamin B tablets for children.

Due to the sibling part of the Goulding Process SleepTalk, A was now saying that he loved his sister in the day time to her – so verbalising his feelings more freely and more understanding with his younger sister.

Parents noticed an improvement with his writing and school reported an improvement with his concentration in his work.

Again, following a family weekend away, parents noticed that A was becoming more and more confident in unusual and new situations.

A was now getting more sleep due to staying in his own bed longer at night time and was more settled therefore sleeping for longer periods of time.

Mum mentioned that whenever A showed a sign of anxiety which was rare these days, she would say some of the SleepTalk words to him in a loving manner and his “shoulders would just drop and he would become more relaxed”.

Increased cooperation meant that A was now more understanding of what his parents were saying to him and so he now listened when they were explaining things to him and he was more cooperative.

Summary

In summary there were notable improvements in sleep, bedwetting, eating, self security, confidence and self esteem, general wellbeing, communication, studies, and communication and relationships with parents within 3 months.

Both parents remained fully committed to the program throughout the whole 3 months, alternating the evenings that they said the words to their child and used some of the positive wording in the daytime to gain optimal benefits for their child.

2012 – Jenny Harris – UK – SleepTalk consultant.

 

Emotional benefits to both Mum and Dad.

“A Skype consultation was held with mother and the final progress identifier form completed.  Mum noticed a difference in ‘N’ if she misses sleep talk due to a sleepover; she notices a small change in the “calmness of his being”

Mother would like to continue the process with her children as she has found it a beautiful and beneficial evening ritual and has also found the process of great emotional benefit to herself and her husband.

The second statement was given her to continue and is ongoing and the family, continue to see a benefit.

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

 

 “I was stunned and had tears in my eyes.

“AM’s energy has increased in mornings. He doesn’t dread the routine he has to follow during the day. His interest and confidence in reading and writing has gone up. Also one morning after 2 months of doing the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® he woke up and said that he loves me. I was stunned and had tears in my eyes.

AM was initially very edgy and cranky for a week. But, I had faith that like the last time this will work too. After a week to 10 days of the statement settling in he became less paranoid of himself and what everyone did. We had a relaxed child at home. His teachers said that he was smiling in the classroom and answering more questions. I am relieved. 

Mother “N” has said “AM” always tries to do things on his own and first tries to reach out himself. If he fails, he asks for help. His teachers are very happy with him as he is doing work on his electronic pad upto his potential. “N” feels more accomplished as a mother and feels that now she has sealed the bond of love with “AM”. 

She also mentioned that “ Michelle” was her role model for “AM”. Also finally there was reduced therapist help and basic physiotherapies only.”

Aneesha Sethi:  Accredited Consultant – India  2018

Education / Behaviour / Confidence

Education

Parent Feedback:  “I had read about SleepTalk® and felt that my 10-year-old son would greatly benefit from it and found that the process fitted easily into our routine as a family. We have always remained dedicated to keeping the process part of the night-time routine as our consultant advised that this was important.

We found that there was ‘feedback’ within a matter of days as my son began getting up in the morning for school in a really good mood, with plenty of energy.   Other results included the fact that my son’s teacher and head teacher noted that he had been writing more in his written work and also that he was more confident with his math’s – even asking to come in at playtime to do his math’s work!

The behaviour change that had led to this improvement in the classroom – he was now beginning to feel self-confident – also meant that he didn’t feel the need to behave in an attention-seeking manner, which could be seen as disruptive.

As my son became more confident and self-assured, it was noticeable that he began to socialise better with his peers, and the best example of this is that he began to be invited to more parties.   And we are now presenting some specific ‘suggestions’ as my son is working through important exams.

We have truly found that Goulding Process- SleepTalk® has been a tool that has been easy to fit into our routine and one that has made a huge difference to our family’s life.  There is no doubt that the program is “working”.  When my son said: “Mum, everything has been great since 3 weeks ago!”

He didn’t quite know why it was – but we knew. It was 3 weeks prior to this, that we had started the SleepTalk® program!   We continue to work with this process now and I would highly recommend it to any parent of any child. The results really do speak for themselves.”
Consultant:  Jenny Harrison – UK

 

Nail Bitting – Eating – Education – Calmness.

After 8 weeks of the The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® Foundations Phase was strictly followed everyday alternatively between both parents where huge improvements has taken place as follows: 

Although eating wasn’t a major concern, his eating habits showed obvious improvement. His motor skills has improved massively to the extent that the mother forgot there was this concern in the first place and when I drew her attention she answered that he walks perfectly well and I didn’t notice anything not normal anymore. His basketball coach is complicating his performance now and his ability to achieve goals in the game.

His study and homework time became no problem at all as the mother herself came more relaxed and was able to give choices and empathise with her son with the ability to choose her battles. 

He is doing his homework very well and that put more confidence in the mothers heart toward the capabilities of her son. He became highly confident in class, reporting bullying cases and no more acting out in class. 

Teachers also commented that his is now a happy child. His ability to stay calm become more sustained and he manages very well to control his anger after a very short period of time. His relationship with his parents became stronger and empathetic and his relationship with his little sister is full of lots of play time. 

As the nail biting was clearly a sign of anxiety and before being a habit so I introduced an additional primary statement: Just after one week this statement made a great difference with the parents, especially the father as he was participating in the Goulding Process 0 SleepTalk® regularly and it was healing for him as well.

 The parents also reported stronger bonding with their son, who has starting to express himself more frequent rather than being so introvert and they were glad to talk about emotions and feelings rather than avoiding them.

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

Home and School Issues.

“Observation of ‘J’ includes he has improved in all areas at home and at school . Parents declined to do another Assessment as they felt just speaking the words from the Foundation programme helped even though it was not consistent.” 

Accredited Consultant & Trainer:  Marilyn Colvin Boon. Qld 2013

Education and Nail Bitting.

“The mother reports that there has been significant overall improvement for ‘Y’.  He is showing more life in his day to day activities. His Maths have improved, he is better in managing his stress from school work without throwing temper at doing difficult Maths.   

There is an improvement in his confidence regarding Study and he has proved to himself that he can do better.  Being able to overcome his carelessness at study has helped to boost his confidence in it. However his writing has declined by 15% but this is due to the new demands at school as they have started writing compositions and he is adjusting to this new demand. 

He has stopped nail biting totally and his day to day happiness has improved by 50%. He is seemingly happier and was able to remain calm and control his emotions, in particularly his anger better. His ability to work alone: Improved by 40%.  

He is learning to do his homework / spelling without supervision.  He is also able to play on his own and take interest in reading his books on his own.  His behaviour towards Parents has improved 30%.  There are less tension over school work and he is now more willing to listen and learn when I teach or guide him through certain issues.  

 

I realised that not only his behaviour is now better towards me, I feel that I no longer get angry with him as often as in the past.  We are now able to talk things out. 

The end results:  I am very pleased with the results.  During this short span of 6 months, many of my pressing concerns were resolved.  Namely nail biting, carelessness with schoolwork, improving focus or concentration at school, being able to sit still at dining table to finish his meals.  My son is now not only able to finish all his food during meal time, he is able to finish his meal with lesser time.”   

Accredited Consultant: Kilyn Liong – Singapore 2018

Heading: School, Behavior and Education.

“The parents feedback is that they can see a substantial difference and ‘P’ is already about 60% more positive going to school. The biggest change seems to be the behavior at school though, where the feedback is that ‘P’ has turned into a very lively student, when before the feedback has often been that she needs to speak up more.

 

Conclusion: The parents both feel the changes with ‘P’ and her feedback is now positive. She goes to her little brother when he cries telling him: “all feelings are ok!” Let’s see what the next couple of weeks will bring but this looks promising to me. 

Trusting the mum’s gut feeling on what the message needs to address payed off again. I loved the fact that mum was looking at the root cause of the effects. The result seems to prove us right. I am happy that ‘P’ found her confidence again.”

Accredited Consultant – Cornelia Dahinten – Zurich 2019

 Physical Issues and Education.

“After completing the mind profile questionnaire, it was great to see that ‘N’ had made improvements over the last 6 weeks.  The parents noted that particularly the negative self-talk had reduced and that ‘N’ was much better at homework now that school has gone back, in fact he was now asking to do homework.  

Working alone is still an issue and  I reminded the parent that ‘N’ now has more skills and they may need to give him the opportunity to use some of them rather than continue to scaffold him to such a great extent.  The parent agreed that this was probably the case and said he would trial giving him some tasks to complete on his own whilst loosely supervising him.

The parent noted an improvement in ‘N’ gross and fine motor skills and there was improvement in his core strength.  His concentration has also improved and this was assisting in his ability to do his school work and homework and he has also been more spontaneous showing affection to his parents.

Primary Area of Need

‘N’ was a lot calmer since the introduction of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® and his anger was also improving, and his self-esteem had also improved.  The primary area of need for ‘N’ was around managing his anger and associated emotions.  

We felt that if he was able to remain calm and understand what was happening within him, he would be better able to respond to his environment. Suggestions were selected to reinforce the need for ‘N’ to remain calm and to further reinforce that he has the answers within himself

End Result

‘N’ has made great progress with The Goulding Process SleepTalk®.  It’s been a very slow and steady change and his parents are very supportive of the process and they have really noticed the changes within him.  

I feel that ’N’ needs the additional time to full understand and digest the suggestions embedded within the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® but that once he’s taken it on, it will penetrate and resonate quite strongly with him.  His parents expect to continue The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® for some time yet as they feel that we can make some great progress over the next few months and years.

Accredited Consultant: Mary Lynch NSW 2011

Education.

Parents Feedback: “Very positive feedback as ‘A’ has changed school without any problem. He loves his new class. All marks are in the positive range now, great eating habits and he can handle his emotions, stopped nail chewing.

 ‘A’ has moved from a problematic and annoying behaviour pattern to a much more sociable, more patient state in general, with a lot of good feedback from the elementary school teachers. 

The parents are calm now, less stress at home. The process has changed their attitudes too to ‘A’.  They are satisfied with the decision changing school as he is more open and able to communicate his feelings.”

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Marianne Lampert.  Hungary 2014

Education.

“Despite not completing all areas of this case study, I do believe ‘C’ made progress. Her confidence with doing her homework improved and she was attempting it independently. At school she was more resilient in dealing with things that in the past would have upset her.

 

‘C’ made some good decisions at school, where she asserted herself in a positive confident way. A much more confident and less anxious child than when we started the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® 

Accredited Consultant: Marian Daish – Victoria 2017

Education.

Improvement on learning ability and more loving towards people around and has stop the nail biting and skin tearing issues. He deals separation anxiety better now and can accept the father leaving him for work. 

Sibling rivalry has also improved and the younger daughter is more understanding and negotiable. The mother said it has been very challenging for her to keep up with The Goulding Process SleepTalk® every day. It needs a lot of perseverance and consistent.  

Accredited Consultant Jen Li Soo – Singapore 2018

Education.

Mum is generally very pleased with the signs of progress of ‘A’ in the past few weeks since the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® was introduced. She sees his behaviour changing in the right direction. 

She believes it is a combination of different factors, but believe SleepTalk® is definitely helping.  Mum reports: 

  1. She enjoys very much the experience and it became a good habit for her. Generally, she has been very consistent since the beginning.
  2.   ‘A’ wakes up in the morning in a better mood, not grumpy like before. 
  3. He’s more comfortable in school and doesn’t complain about it anymore. 
  4. Dad did The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® only once as he feels uncomfortable to sit in the dark and talk to his son while seeping, “it doesn’t feel natural”.

My conclusion: The changes seen are great showing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® has been implemented correctly by the parent and the Foundation Statements accepted by ‘A’. According to the second: Mind Profile document, the primary area of need would be: ‘Academic’ and ‘Confidence’ in general, but Mum is now happy the way “A” is and prefers to continue with Foundation statement for now instead of trying specific suggestions offered. Mum is aware she can come back to me later when she feels starting Level 2.

Accredited Consultant: Maguelonne Rousseau – 2016 – Singapore

Behaviour and Education.

Mum is generally pleased with the signs of progress of ‘L’ in the past few weeks since the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  was introduced. The process has been implemented correctly and consistently by parents (missed 5 times in total and not even in the row). Mum reports:

1) Even though behaviour is better, she still feels that he lacks empathy towards family and friends and is generally worried about his social behaviour, especially now he’s going to enter primary school.

2) He seems to take frustration and anger a bit better but showed few times signs of being more vengeful (instead of hitting a friend or brother straight away, can control him-self more often but then keep some resentment that shows later).

3) Mum is also doing the process consistently with the little brother since the beginning.

According to the Mind Profile document number 2, the primary areas of need are Behaviour, Academic and Emotional.  We agreed on continuing the Foundation Statements for now and over Christmas period and January, and later starts a specific suggestion chosen in the General section that we have adapted.

Change of attitude regarding his behaviour and positive attitude. Mum is excited to soon start the specific suggestions!

Accredited Consultant: Maguelonne Rousseau – 2016 – Singapore

Tantrums / Sibling rivalry / Bed Wetting / Speech /Anger / Confidence & Co-operation

B was 6 years old when Mum commenced SleepTalk® with him. Mum says that B is quite a sensitive boy who relates to nature and enjoys learning about and exploring nature. His older brother J was 16 years old and younger brother A was 2.5 years old at the time. Mum was very interested and motivated to be involved with SleepTalk ® For Children. Mum had concerns with B with several areas; the most prominent being his behaviour, which was often explosive, with yelling, screaming, swearing, kicking and throwing things, and tantrums. B wouldn’t cooperate with Mum when asked to do things (eg packing up the toys before dinner) and became very angry and aggressive quickly. Although B tended to play separately from others, often annoyed his younger brother A, consistently arguing/fighting with him. His older brother didn’t want to play with, B or let B come into his room, and has no patience for him Mum said. B had delayed speech development, which primarily involved enunciation (eg of sounds –  c, f, s, sh, ch), sentence structure, grammar selection (eg l/He/She…. am/was/are). This negatively impacted on B’s communication with others – who often had difficulty understanding what he was trying to say.
B became anxious with changes and new people in his life, sometimes ‘over-reacting’ to these situations, by either crying or becoming overly excited. Although toilet trained now, Mum said that B had no interest in going to the toilet by himself, so at 4 years of age she “really had to make him.” However he was still wearing night nappies (bed wetting).

Mum said that she would also give SleepTalk to A her 2 yo son as well, as he was copying B’s negative behaviour. Spoke with Mum next day who said she felt a bit nervous when giving SleepTalk ® but it all went well.

SleepTalk ® Foundation Process commenced.
Only a week later, Mum was amazed to hear A repeating the script word for word to them (on Mother’s Day!). Within two weeks she could already see some improvement in B’s behaviour, with the aggressive outbursts becoming less frequent each day and B becoming a bit calmer at home. B was listening to her more, and had even stopped and looked at her while she was asking him to pack up the toys one day, which he had never done before. Mum was so amazed that she quickly gave him a cuddle and told him how good he was! Both boys had become more affectionate towards Mum, coming up for no reason and giving her a cuddle, which she loved of course! They were being more affectionate towards dad also.

After the first month of SleepTalk, Mum was very happy to share how much B’s behaviour had improved and the positive effect it had on the whole family – even his older brother had said at the dinner table one night, “I don’t recognise B anymore.” A family day trip which involved quite a bit of driving had been successful Mum reported, without the three boys on the back seat fighting once – “that’s never happened before!”

Second Meeting With Mum.
Vast improvements concerning B’s level of behaviour, confidence, anxiety and happiness were highlighted by Mum who was so happy with the progress that B had made in the previous two months. Generally B remained calm and was dealing with things, with his aggression and anger occurring much less frequently. However these aggressive episodes were more apparent during the previous month when B was suffering from an ear infection. Mum found his behaviour had become more ‘challenging’ again through this time, after being more settled. She was thankful for SleepTalk, to be able to tell him that she loved him when he was quiet at night – and get her through the difficult and stressful times of coping with B’s behaviour each day.

How much B’s level of self confidence and self-esteem had improved became more apparent for Mum when she explained what B was now doing at home. B was cooperating more with Mum, packing up the toys for dinner when asked, often doing so without being asked! Mum said that B wanted to help around the house more, offering to chop up things for meals, setting the table, even got the baked beans out for himself to eat, opened the lid, put them in a saucepan, turned on the hotplate and heated them up – all independently and at 6yo! B had even chosen a new job for himself to do each morning – packing the dried dishes away in the cupboard, and supervised his little brother A to put away the cutlery. He was also sharing and helping his younger brother, playing positively with his older brother who now wanted B’s company and better behaved when in the supermarket. Mum even took the boys on a bus trip to the shops which she said she never would have attempted with B previously due to his behaviour. Mum said that B was more consistent in his behaviour, she could reason with him now and he was more thoughtful and helpful to others.

While B’s behaviour outside the home was not “as silly as before”, being better behaved, he still tended to act silly, as though attention seeking from his friends. Mum said he was never invited to play at his friend’s homes and she thought maybe this could be the reason from their mothers. B’s level of anxiety had reduced when car pooling as he acted calmer, not appearing to be upset by other children’s comments when they couldn’t understand what he was saying. Although Mum was!  B’s sleeping pattern had improved and now went to bed easier when asked, and straight to sleep; sleeping through the night, instead of being awake for quite sometime as previously. However he was still bed wetting.

Mum reported that B was not only more affectionate, but his cuddles, hugs and words of affection were more meaningful and heartfelt. How lovely!

Although Dad had not been taking part in the nightly SleepTalk ® process, he often came to watch and listen to Mum from the doorway of B’s bedroom. He had recognised B’s improved behaviour and level of affection and seemed to be more willing to do things with the boys, eg taking them fishing with him.

Choosing the Primary Area of Need
Three areas of need for B were identified by Mum – his speech, behaviour and toileting (bed wetting). Even though she felt his communication with others, together with his self-confidence, would benefit from improved speech, she explained that as his younger brother had begun to have dry nights and didn’t want to wear night nappies, she believed this was of more importance for B. Whereas before, B was not concerned about wearing a night nappy, she felt that now he wanted not to wet his nappy each night. After discussing what the possible reason/s maybe concerning why B had bed wetting, eg medical, fears, authority figure/s, a specific statement was chosen as the support statement.

By advising Mum that with Dad’s involvement in giving SleepTalk ® to B, not only will it help to accelerate the process, but it will help him with his bed wetting problem.

After only five nights of giving the supporting statement, Mum sms to say that B had his first dry night! Mum was so excited for her son, as well B also – me too!

Confidence, Bedwetting, Lack of respect

Prior to seeing Joane Goulding, both of my sons had individual problems. The 8 year old was very dependant on me and very lacking in confidence. My younger son (5 years of age) had a bed wetting problem, and a complete lack of respect toward the opposite sex.

My mother saw Joane interviewed on television, and after further research, an appointment was made with her. After six months of practicing ‘SleepTalk’ it was obvious to me that this program was working. I have now been practicing ‘SleepTalk’ for two years, and definitely see positive results. I intend to continue ‘SleepTalk’ as I believe that it is a necessary part of my children’s development.

Thank you Joane.

P.C. – Bacchus Marsh 2005

Fear and lack of confidence

Ten year old sibling of Case 1 presents as a well adjusted young person with no apparent need for SleepTalk®.  Joane encourages the parents to use the Foundation process on the sibling also.  After 2-3 weeks the brother’s name is inserted into the Foundation statements. (as per case 1).
Case 2 is a competitive acrobat, having represented the state at National Level at the age of nine.  On the surface she seems capable and the sort of person who takes everything in her stride.  However, she is actually highly stressed due to the demands of competition and she is starting to doubt her ability to execute certain skills within the routine.
Joane and the girl’s mother quickly work together (first qualifying competition is three weeks away) to come up with some primary suggestions to add to the Foundation process.  The ‘Specific’ suggestion they choose incorporated statements that encouraged remaining calm, relaxed, secure and remaining positive”.

Due to school holidays and absences of other members of the team, it is uncertain for the first two weeks if the primary suggestions are being accepted.  At the first training session of the new term, with only one training session to go before the competition, case 2 reports how she executed the routine from start to finish, including her back sault to tummy (her primary fear), with absolutely no assistance from the coaches.  She is clearly delighted with her performance.

Building Confidence

I thought I would give you an update. I never, thought I would say this but ‘M’ volunteered to speak on behalf of his class and the school today. He had to thank a couple of guest speakers that visited his school Library today and present them with a gift.

The Library teacher pulled me aside after school today to tell me. She said she was so surprised he put his hand up to do it so she immediately chose him. She said she was very impressed with him and noted the improvement in his confidence.

I told her about the SleepTalk® program. She said it definitely seems to be working; he is not the same shy little boy.

Regards K