With my 7 year old daughter, we had issues with her anger, insecurity and with her coming into our bed in the middle of the night, which was causing tension within the family, as we could not find a productive method that worked and prevented all this. The first night I did SleepTalk with her, she slept all night in her own bed – the first time in years! I was shocked, she herself was surprised and very proud of herself!
I have witnessed a calmness about her, a confidence, a positivity, an independence and security since I have implemented SleepTalk. Over summer I got out of habit and routine of doing it. Then I slowly saw old habits creeping back in – she was getting back into my bed again at night-time, she was getting angry easily, etc … so I started SleepTalk and things resolved themselves.
She is asleep when I do SleepTalk, but she sometime says to me as she goes to bed, “Please mummy, can you stroke my head and say those words to me again when I’m sleeping?” This surprises me, as she is asleep, so not quite sure how she knows? So I say to her, “Do you remember what i say?” … her reply, “No, but it makes me happy”!
My son is 11 years old. He has severe special needs. He can’t talk. He is a very happy, calm child, who cannot verbally give me feedback about life, so I have no real proof if it is working for him or not … BUT when I do SleepTalk – again he is asleep, but every time I say THE script he suddenly smiles whilst asleep … that says it all to me! I feel I am giving him a little bit of security and reinforcement of what he already knows every time I do it!
As a mum, it has had personal benefits, as I love doing it … it has given me a few minutes every night, that feels a beautiful, peaceful, special, magical bonding time with my children – it really feels like pure unconditional love.
I have witnessed some beautiful positive changes in my children, which I believe is from this method, but who knows if this is just coincidence and if it really works or not? I personally really do think it is working for my family and will continue with it, as in my opinion … it only takes 2 minutes of your time in an evening and it cannot do any harm, as everything that is said is positive and loving. There is no negativity, nothing intrusive or implying anything apart from making your child know that they are loved, secure and safe. Surely, that is the most important gift any parent can give their child?
My daughter is called ‘T’, she is about to turn 8 years old and my son is called ‘R’, he is 11 years old (he has special needs – a rare chromosome condition called, ‘1q44 deletion denovo syndrome’ – which means he has seizure, gross & fine motor issues, non verbal, still in nappies, sensory integration dysfunction, etc, etc …)
Beryl Comar – Accredited Training – Parent Feedback – DW – Dubai – 2014